What is emotional intelligence and why is it growing in importance?

The term emotional intelligence itself appeared at the end of the 20th century and appeared before modern social scientists as an important object that satisfies the needs of humanity for personal growth at a pace with the process of intensification of scientific progress and the rapid march of the information revolution.

John Mayer of New Hampshire University and Peter Salovey of Yale University introduced the concept of "emotional intelligence," and Daniel Goleman, a columnist for the New York Times, helped popularize the topic around the world. Emotional intelligence in the information age of rapid speeds, when the world is rapidly changing before our eyes, with which we sometimes do not even have time to track the next innovation, is acquiring ever greater instrumental significance.

In this situation, the topic of live, sincerely sensual human communication becomes not only the value of the energy exchange or socialization of the individual, but plays the role of a coordinate system for solving the eternal problem of achieving mutual understanding with one's social environment in all spheres of the individual's life.

And if you want a tangible improvement in the quality of your communication and the environment, and also need a positive perception of your "I" yourself and the world - modern technology for the development of emotional intelligence will be another key that will open up new opportunities for you, give you the joy of a bright emotional and sensual life and will reward you with bonuses for the growth of financial well-being, happiness in your personal and social life.

• Is it possible to become the master of your emotions?
• What is the prevention of suffering, irritation, resentment, anxiety and sadness?
• What is the technology of not manipulative, but conscious control of one's own and other people's emotions, and how to master it?

We will discuss these and other questions in my column.

Who am I and why I propose to study and implement the issue of emotional intelligence for everyone and everyone in their lives and the lives of their loved ones.

In the world my name is Olga Panok. My coaching nickname is Sara Bright. Under his auspices, I carry out the ontological turn of my life - personal and professional - I study myself and teach others to form, develop and put into practice emotional intelligence. I was lucky to make a successful 30-year career in the field of public consciousness management in terms of theoretical study of the issue (I, at one time, became one of the first and youngest candidate of political sciences in Ukraine) and worked for many years in the academic teaching field.

The second path of learning how the world of people works and the possibilities of their most effective interaction began at the age of 17 and was associated with numerous projects in the field of political and business relations with the public. My practical experience as a PR specialist counts hundreds of projects, companies, strategies and victories. Constant study of primary sources and communication with customers - and these are the big and powerful of this world - convinced me that emotion is the modern key factor for quick, easy and simple personal success and social influence. The time of the pandemic set me down for the development of my own author's methodology for human acquisition of emotional intelligence and resulted in an innovative and publicly available product - the world's first application for smartphones "Emotional Intelligence".

What is emotional intelligence?

So, the term itself is a little over 30 years old, but the idea is not new. Even the ancient philosophers Plato and Aristotle set the vector for the development of the study of the emotional sphere of a person, believing that this is undoubtedly an important component of the personality that requires knowledge and improvement. The concept of emotional intelligence is a continuation of the ideas of the greatest thinkers of all historical eras of mankind.

What skills are related to emotional intelligence?

Sensitivity, recognition of one's own and others' emotions

Understanding how we ourselves or another person feel by looking at appearance, physical condition and behavior. The ability to distinguish between false and true feelings. Show empathy - the ability to empathize with another person, to feel his emotions and states.

Understanding emotions

Ability to name, classify, interpret in words the occurring emotional states. Understanding complex and ambiguous feelings. Awareness of the transitions from one emotion to another, as well as the root causes of their occurrence and conditions.

The skill of managing your own and others' emotions

Control over the intensity of feelings is the skill to deliberately muffle or, on the contrary, enhance sensory states. Transfer from one emotional state to another.

Thought control

The ability to produce meaningful thinking. For example, "resurrect" from memory a state of successful experience or stop an unproductive thought.

In the post-Soviet space, this tool for using EI is just beginning to gain cognitive and applied popularity. The corporate sector has turned out to be ahead of the rest of the world, with the corresponding capacity of opportunities for training staff in advanced innovative practices, since it turned out to be simply ignorant to ignore the global trend of growth in labor productivity (which is 20-45%), depending on the development of EI.

Regarding this phenomenon in personal life, our society has yet to complete this undertaking.

How to motivate yourself to study emotional intelligence?

Take some time to observe yourself. What thoughts, ideas, emotions, and actions dominate your day-to-day life? Answer the questions:

1. Is it difficult for you to find a common language with the environment?
2. Feeling unsure or not understanding what to do?
3. Do you criticize yourself a lot?
4. Do you often not understand how you feel?
5. Do you give in to manipulation by your parents, friends and colleagues, your spouse?
6. Children do not obey, is it difficult to find an approach?
7. Thoughts are on their own, and emotions are arbitrary?
8. Is it difficult to build relationships with other people?
9. Feeling that you are standing still?

If you answered “yes” to at least one question, then I invite you to an interesting and resourceful journey into the stormy world of the emotional life of a person. Along with mental abilities, developing emotional awareness is an important cognitive activity that makes it possible to savor life to the fullest!