Anna Sukharevskaya, manager-producer of Mikhail Labkovsky in Ukraine, assures that working with an odious psychologist … is easy and fun! She told the readers of our site about what she herself teaches from working with Labkovsky.
“The most important thing you need to know about Labkovsky is that he really lives by 6 rules, which it declares. Every day. In the little things. If we take it for granted, working with Mikhail will be, perhaps, not always easy and convenient, but certainly understandable and interesting. I will say more: these rules give excellent results for me personally - when I have the strength and courage to follow them, because in fact it is not as easy as it seems.
Take, for example, the first two rules: "Do only what you want" and "Don't do what you don't want to do." Mikhail likes to sleep longer in the morning. And this reason is enough for him not to go on the morning broadcast on the most popular TV channel. “Anya, to be honest: I just don’t want to!” He says.
Of course, from the position of a manager, it would be easier for me if he agreed. But from the standpoint of just a person, I appreciate when the other respects his own interests - this means that he will respect my interests too. Ultimately, I just come up with other promotion strategies, so it even tones me up to some extent.
And some time ago Labkovsky canceled the contract of 300 thousand USD. - for this you had to fly to America, and Mikhail hates long flights. One can object, they say, he can afford it. It is true, Labkovsky is a dear psychologist. But among my acquaintances, even the very rich, perhaps there are no more people who would refuse 300 thousand USD. for personal comfort.
And he, unlike most, praises for mistakes… Everything is simple here: the fear of being wrong is a sign of neuroticism, and the more we are nervous and worried about the result, the higher the chances of "screwing up". For example, I once confused a slide with the topic of his lecture. One theme was announced on the posters and on the tickets, people come to the hall - a huge screen with a different theme hangs above the stage. When I saw this, it was already too late to change anything, and there were only a few minutes left before the start of the performance.
I went up and said: "Mikhail, I must confess: I made a mistake." And he: “Anya, congratulations! Finally it happened: you are not perfect! We will definitely raise a glass to this after the end of the lecture. " I exhaled. Mikhail, going on stage, somehow joked about the name. And in the end, everything went brilliantly.
And at the performances in Kharkov, Labkovsky simply … forbade me to come to the hall earlier in order to personally check the full readiness. “Believe me, they will cope without you. And I have to have supper before the show, and I do not intend to eat alone. So please book a table at a good restaurant!"
For a perfectionist like me, this was real psychotherapy in action! It was important for me to live this experience, and not in words, but in deeds to be convinced: I can be wrong, I can not keep my finger on the pulse all the time - and the earth will not stop turning. Everything will be all right: both for me personally and for the people around."
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